the 30 day blog thing. day 01

Yup. I'm doing it. Perhaps not in 30 days. perhaps in 90, or a year. we will see. but they will all get done.
I stole this from the lovely Cap'n Bex who found it on tumblr I do believe. Aaaaand here we go.

day 01. Your current relationship, if single discuss how single life is. 

Well. I am in deed single and I've been single for most my life. I used to be one of those people who would run away from any sort of serious thing. and that was fine when I was 15. But at 23? not so much. I guess I'm growing up a bit. So I am kind of getting bored of being single to be honest. Especially seeing all my friends that I grew up with finding themselves in long term relationships. Still being the single one when all your friends are coupled? Not so great at times. That whole cliche about couples parties and being set up with people... I mean, being single does not mean I am desperately looking for ANY man I can find. I still believe in finding my own man. Hopefully it won't take me too long. And In the mean time I'll just try and have fun.

One thing I don't like about being single is how life in our society seems to be centred around couples. It's pretty annoying... It is getting better since more and more of the population choose to live alone till later in their life. But the world still seems to be very much set up for couples when you get to my age. I dread to think what it's like for a single 29 year old. Those films about desperate singles in their late 20s (always women) seem to make more sense now. But I really think that is unfair. I think it is possible to be happy on your own, and people shouldn't feel pressured in too looking for a relationship just because it's the norm. If you choose to live life by yourself, or in untraditional living situations that should be ok too. But when you are single there are reminders everywhere that you "shouldn't " be. Even from those coupled friends I mentioned earlier. It seems like one is not supposed to be happy if one is alone. Come on! some people really are better off alone, and single is better then a dysfunctional relationship any day. I was reminded yesterday that biggest couples day of the year is coming up pretty soon too. Valentines day. The shittest day a year for  a lot of us singles. I had completely forgot it even existed. But I plan to celebrate it like I did last year and the year before that. With some single friends and good wine. I'm kind of glad v.day isn't a big thing in Norway, but now I'm in England and there will be hearts, balloons, flowers, chocolate and lovey duvey couples everywhere. So will probably be hiding from that :P 

Don't get me wrong. it's not all bad and I'm not desperate to find a relationship. I do quite enjoy being single too. Being the kind of girl that really need my own space and a lot of alone time it suits me quite well at the moment. I'm in my third year of uni now, so it is nice to not have to feel guilty about shutting myself in my room for days at an end and staring at a screen, painting or writing the dreaded dissertation with only msn/facebook/twitter for company. I't doesn't bother me and I have no one else to worry about so that is good. I also quite enjoy having the possibility to go out and do whatever I want whenever I want, and make decisions only for myself. I've seen too many people give up on their dreams for a better half that they are not even with a couple of years later. Right now I can think about the future and dream as big as I wan't without having to worry about another persons reaction to what I want to do. Witch is pretty nice since I hope to travel a lot more. You know. see the world, reach for the stars and all that. I know not all relationships hold you back in that way. But I have seen too many (especially)girls give up on their dreams for their boyfriends. But if I found someone to chase those dreams with me that would be fun to. Sharing adventures! 

So I guess those are my views on single life today. I am ready to stop running, but not too worried about relationships at the moment. I guess we will see what the future brings.